There are many things parents can do to help their children cope with divorce, but if a child is old enough to understand the intricacies of divorce, it may be wise to give them a list of tips they can follow as well.
There are some things that children should keep in mind when their parents are going through divorce. These tips may be really helpful during the hardest parts of the process.
First, remember that the divorce is not your fault. Divorce is an adult decision and you do not have to be a mediator, a collaborator or take sides. You have the right to be a child and you have the right to enjoy your childhood. Do not feel guilty for spending time with any one parent and do not feel like you have to protect any parent, no matter the circumstances of the split.
Be empathetic toward your parents as they go through this process – it’s not easy for them. Similarly, be empathetic toward yourself. Give yourself time to cope and be kind to yourself. Find people to talk to about the divorce, whether that be your parents, friends or a school counselor. It’s important that your parents know how you feel and what is going on in your life.
Finally, give yourself time to grieve as your family changes. Do not feel like you have to try to keep your parents together or that you suddenly have to become the head of the household. Stick to your daily routines and seek comfort in them. It may not be the easiest thing to go through, but in the end, everything will be okay.