Emotions are often running high when a couple announces they are getting divorced. In addition to the sadness and guilt people may be feeling, there can be lot of anxiety and pressure about the so-called "right" way to do things. This can be especially true if one or both people getting divorced are in the public eye.
This feeling of wanting to do things the way our friends, families or fans (in some cases) think they should be done can lead people to set some unrealistic expectations. It can also result in a hesitancy or refusal for one person to fight for what they may deserve because it might seem unpopular or nasty. However, as the divorce process proceeds, there can be time to readjust your expectations with the help of your attorney.
Recently, for example, tabloids reported that the divorce between singers Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale has taken a potentially contentious turn.
The divorcing couple did not have a prenuptial agreement in place and sources have said Rossdale once stated that he would never fight his wife for money in a divorce.
However, now that they are actually divorcing, the tides appear to be turning. According to reports, Rossdale may actually be seeking half of his soon-to-be ex-wife's money in the divorce. An apparent insider stated that Stefani was able to go out and earn so much money during their marriage because Rossdale stayed home and raised their children, which is why he may now be seeking a larger settlement in addition to child support and spousal support.
Whether these reports are accurate or not, these types of developments are not uncommon in divorce. Spouses may start out with the intention of being amicable, but over time and through the course of discussing issues like property division, a person can decide they want something very different than what the other is offering.
The expectations and reality of divorce can be much more difficult and different than people anticipate, especially when there are significant assets at stake. Because of this, it can be wise to have the support and guidance of an attorney who can help you adjust your goals and assumptions in a way that protects your interests and rights.